A Mother’s Heart

Moms are a breed of women who are set up to give their hearts away as a way of life. Moms tend to worry and find ways to care for their child(ren), even under the worst of circumstances. There’s a thing about motherhood where the thought of not being able to protect or care for your child(ren) creates a distress that is so loud, it is silent within. To the mothers who have had to say that final good-bye to their child(ren), you have my greatest sympathy.
 
I am the mother of two grown sons whom I cannot even bear the thought of life without. Their dad and I brought them up with the fact in mind that they would become men. I grew up in the South Bronx during the 1960s, when drugs, alcohol and mental illness ravaged the streets, without the numerous treatment options and changed attitudes about addiction today. So my motives were clear and simple: God, love, education, discipline, opportunity and peace. My sons were big guys, and I remember telling them to never behave in a manner in which others – particularly females – would be afraid of them. My husband had numerous man-talks with our sons, many of which I was unaware
 
How does a mother prepare a child for a world where people don’t see the same precious beautiful gifted man-child that she birthed and looks at each day? What happens when that wrongful act from which there is no return falls upon that beloved child? How does she make peace within herself and with the twisted world system that delivered this wrongful blow? Following is the point of view of someone who has taken a walk down this path of a too-early goodbye (due to sudden and quick illness).

                                            My Boy
                In loving memory of my son, Allen L. Fludd,
​                              12-27-1963 to 3-27-2010.
 
He chose me as his mother – I didn’t know it then –
to love him and protect him and hold him close within.
 
He was my perfect baby, my boy from up above, who came to me to teach me about God’s most perfect love.
 
I didn’t have the answers; I stumbled, sometimes fell
along this path of motherhood, I thought I knew so well.
 
His guidance and wisdom along this winding path
from baby to adulthood must have been an awesome task –
 
To have to see me falter, and even sometimes fall,
on my journey as a mother who thought she knew it all.
 
With slow and gentle prodding, with love and tender care,
my boy gave me God’s lessons that he came to Earth to share.
 
I didn’t always understand that he had work to do.
He came here for a purpose and had to see it through.
 
He was a gentle spirit, just on loan to me,
to make sure I became what God wants me to be! 
 
~ Lydia Valentine, 3-28-2010

George Floyd leads a list of wrongful Black lives lost to a world system that now is being challenged like never before. One could say that the devastation of the covid19 virus brought humanity to its knees. His passing sent waves (purpose in his death) across the world. What can we – those reading this blog – do to show our support for moms who need to go on with their lives, what would we say?
 
As a Black mother of two sons, I’m saying this to these mothers and to the world at large: Do your part to make a difference! In your piece of this earth, with whatever you do, do it in the name of peace and justice. Project an air of pride for life (all lives matter); give to support the purpose of peace, humanity and equality for all.

• If you write, write about your hope and dreams in the power of man to change.
• If you sing, sing a song about promoting peace and harnessing forgiveness, gratitude, love and self-control.
• If you’re a speaker, speak about the power of change and a positive outlook.
• If you’re a pastor, preach about the power of God to touch and change the hearts of men who are willing to submit to His Lordship.
• If you can build or create any tangible thing, do it, with the motive of sowing into a community of people that need it.
• If you have unlimited financial resources, give to selected organizations and projects that cultivate solutions for racial equality and human kindness. Better yet, just be the foundation that promotes programs to teach people how to identify their own personal bias, and learn to bring change in the person in front of the mirror.

Most of all:

• If you are ignorant, filled with self-pride and arrogance, have an agenda for hate, and are angry, finding fault in everyone and everything “out there” but never looking inside of you: Go home, sit down, shut up, and get out of the way of people who want a new normal for our present world!

 We all think that Covid19 (sent by the enemy to destroy man) is the worst fear and obstacle against the world today. It is not; the wrath of God is greater and to be reverenced. He is a loving God with all power in His hands, waiting for His people to come to Him (Christianity: 2.1 billion, Islam: 1.3 billion, Hinduism: 900 million, Buddhism: 376 million, Sikhism: 23 million, Judaism: 14 million, and the 450 – 750 million of the world population who are atheist), so He can heal the land.
 
Let’s level up! Be the one who speaks peace into a mother’s heart.